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Hi, I'm Tom.
I really love football and sport.

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But then the thing
with the shower happened.

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I couldn't stand that.

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My cousin Rene got involved.

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He's four years older than me
and is already a trainer.

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He spent the holidays with us.
Three weeks playing football.

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That was great!

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But then he asked me
why I'm not on the team anymore.

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Then everything came out.

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I nearly cried.
His reaction was so stupid at first.

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He asked why I didn't defend myself.
I couldn't! There were more of them!

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I was angry. I thought it was mean.

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But then Rene said it was really nasty
of those other boys.

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And cowardly.
Because there were more of them.

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Then he said
he had experienced something similar.

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But he didn't tell anyone.

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He said something should be done about it.

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Rene took me to meet a woman
who trains a girls' team.

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Her name was Chris. I told her my story.

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Rene said she knew about stuff like that.

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She promised to speak
with the head of my club,

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without naming names,
which I thought was good.

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And then the football club
started a campaign

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against sexual abuse.

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Trainers and football teams
attended workshops

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to learn more about bullying
and sexualized violence.

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Last week Chris asked me how I'm doing.

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Actually pretty good.
I'm back on the team.

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Everyone's being pretty nice,
and I can shower again.

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Right, I'm going to play football. Bye!

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Hey, it's Isso again.
I'll just sum that up.

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It's not okay to smack someone's bare bum.

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It's sexualized violence.
It was brave of Tom to tell Rene.

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Rene didn't act too great at first

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but then he remembered how horrible
that sort of thing can be.

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It's often not possible to escape
or defend yourself.

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If someone confides something like that,
look at how they're doing.

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Talk about what you can do.

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Also: Who would you talk to

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if that happened to you or a friend?

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Who has your trust?
You can also call this number.

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116 111.

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It's on the website too,
in case you need it.

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Take care. Bye from Isso.