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SEXUALIZED VIOLENCE AGAINST BOYS
IT HAPPENS AND IT'S NEVER OKAY

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Hey guys! Welcome to my YouTube channel.

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My name's Isso,
and today we'll talk about something

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that's really important,
but that people don't like talking about.

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So it's important that <i>we </i>talk about it.

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The topic today is...
Sexualized violence against boys.

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What is that?

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It's when someone who identifies as a boy

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is put in a situation he doesn't want
which is of a sexual nature.

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That can be different things
in different situations.

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This is Tom, for example. Hi, Tom.
-Hi, Isso!

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Tom is ten, and he's a real athlete.

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On his football team are two boys

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who smack his bare bum
when he's in the shower.

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Tom doesn't like it,
but the boys think it's funny, and laugh.

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So Tom laughs too.
-Though I don't feel like laughing.

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But if I complain
they'll laugh at me even more.

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Tom is upset because he loves football
but since the incidents in the shower

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he doesn't feel like going to training.

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Then there's Erkan.
He's 11 but looks much older.

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Oh, thanks!
-Erkan is in a chat group.

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Of kids in his neighbourhood.
Sometimes an older girl writes to him.

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Luisa. She recently sent him
photos of herself in her underwear.

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She asked him if it suits her.

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It makes me feel so embarrassed

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to get almost naked pictures of someone.

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And then they're on your phone.
-He'd like to write and tell her to stop.

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But then she'll be annoyed with him.

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She's much older. And more popular.

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So at first he wrote that she looked good.

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Since then she's been sending
even more photos and messages.

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Then there's Jamie.
-Hi, I'm Jamie. I'm 14. I love music.

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Jamie lives with his dad.

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He has to work a lot,
so often takes Jamie to his uncle.

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It's actually cool. Recently his uncle
let Jamie have a drag on his cigarette.

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Jamie was happy.
He felt like his uncle took him seriously.

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Sometimes the two of them play fight.

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One time, Jamie's uncle put his hand
between Jamie's legs and stroked him.

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I didn't like it.

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But also, it was tingly
and felt kind of exciting.

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My brain switched off.

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He can't tell his dad about it.

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Jamie thinks
he wouldn't believe him anyway.

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You see? Three boys,
with three very different stories.

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But they're all about sexualized violence.

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SEXUALIZED VIOLENCE

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Jamie's uncle
didn't accidentally touch his elbow

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but deliberately between the legs.

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That's a sexual body part,
and he did it with sexual intent.

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Adults aren't allowed to do that.
It's a crime.

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Erkan received pictures from Luisa
that could be sexually arousing.

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Sending pictures of yourself in underwear
is called "sexting".

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It's only okay if both people want it.
That's called "consent".

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Erkan hasn't given his consent.

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The pictures and images bother him.
That's how it is.

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And Tom?

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Those boys are having fun
at Tom's expense.

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They're taking advantage of the fact
the bum is a private part.

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For him, and many others.

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And we feel more vulnerable
when we're naked than when we're dressed.

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So, sexualized violence

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can come from other kids or from adults,
regardless of their gender.

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It can happen through direct contact
or via social media.

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The stories we heard from Jamie,
Erkan and Tom are just examples.

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There are many other forms
of sexualized violence.

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But one thing's clear: it's never okay.

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What would you do
if something like that happened to you?

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Give it some thought.

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I almost forgot. You can find out
what Jamie, Erkan and Tom did about it.

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Click on the audio files and listen.

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I'll appear at the end of each one, too.

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See you later.

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Bye, from Isso.